“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”-Marianne Williamson
"A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous."-Coco Chanel
I would like to think we all have a dad in our life somewhere. Maybe he might not have been there for you or you may not know him or he might have even not been your real dad, but nevertheless one existed. Even if none of the above may pertain to you we still have our Almighty Father. I bring this up to talk to my women today. Don't worry guys. If you are a dad or in a relationship, this may help you in finding clarity on what to look for in a mate. I know that is not easy for anyone in life, let alone being a woman. When I look at my example of a woman, the first one that comes to mind is Kayla. She's my little lady. They tell you when you become a dad, your whole life changes. FYI... It did. Lol. I look at how little boys be around her trying their best to get her attention. I'm ready to kill them all. I had a conversation with a good friend of mine today about her education and how education is period nowadays, and it made me think of what I want to teach her on becoming a lady. To expand that thought, I wondered what could I teach women about being a lady of God. For the record, I understand that I'm not a woman. I am just guy giving a perspective on how a lady can be a woman of God, so please show a little leeway on me.
So what does it take to be a classy lady? First off, what is your description of a lady? If you can, take a minute to describe yourself in detail. What do you see? Most bible thumpers would say a proverbs 31 woman, and they would be right. But let's expand on that. To me, saying that is like my parents telling me that I need to go to college, and when I got there, I had no clue what I was suppose to be doing there besides going because they told me to. What does it say about the role of a woman? The bible reads that one of a woman's roles is to be a helpmeet. A helpmeet, is someone who is there to play a supporting role in another's life. No. It does not mean that you have to be submissive and that's it. It pertains to key parts to of a whole. For instance, take a jobs of a restaurant. A host is just as important as a cook, who is just as important as a server and so on. Their job may not be intensive, but the necessity is there.
"Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman."-Coco Chanel
We truly are what we choose to show the world. When I looked at that quote, I was put in mind to our demeanor and how we carry ourselves. Another trait of a classy lady is one who's transparent. What I mean is a person who has no reason to feel like her actions need to be hidden. I'm not saying tell everybody that you been getting it in everyday, but someone who can be an example of a good woman but not hiding her flaws to make her look better. We are all human. We are not perfect. I say to all of you, "Everything great is not perfect (pertaining to our daily lives), everything perfect is not always great. (except with God of course)" Does that mean that you can go do hood rat things work your friends? No. Heck no! But what it means is that no one can teach you how to be you, so go out and be the best you that you can be. Some ways to find out about you are being real to yourself. it's your body; your mind. No one knows you better than you except God.
This is just a snippet of a long journey. Please take this with your head held high. Be the one in the poem of Robert Frost "The road not taken" that took the unbeaten path until it's clear for others to see His glory.
1 Timothy 2:9-10New Living Translation (NLT)
9 And I want women to be modest in their appearance.[a] They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. 10 For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do.
